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Didn’t we do well!

Last week we received some more fantastic news: two couples happily matched by Drawing Down the Moon are expecting babies and another couple are due to wed – all in the month of March! Now that is what we call job satisfaction! It’s not only the colourful dating stories we hear which enhance our working day – these genuine happy endings not only makes us feel that we’ve done our job well, but also give us an excuse to open a bottle of bubbly! Our office is absolutely buzzing when we hear of yet another dating success story.

Even with our decades of matchmaking experience, ultimately it all comes down to that elusive chemistry.  The members mentioned went on a few dates before they met their ‘significant other’. Some of those previous dates were great matches ‘on paper’ but there was that special something missing.. It’s that ‘something’, that ‘chemical thing’ that makes it work. And it’s that special reaction that it creates which makes our job as matchmakers the best in the world.

This entry was posted on Wednesday, February 29th, 2012 at 7:15 pm and is filed under Dating, Drawing Down the Moon, marriage, Matchmakers, Successful Relationships. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.

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A couple – two halves or two wholes?

Throughout history, simply in order to survive, people have nearly always had to live in some sort of group. In most societies it has been difficult for women to own property and live independently. As late as the 1960′s, a woman couldn’t usually take out a motgage or even hire a television in Britain without a man acting as guarantor. Professional women in the West now take it for granted that they will be responsibe for themselves and buy or rent their own homes, cars, pensions and holidays. Indeed, I still remember the exhilaration of walking through my own front door for the first time.

It is at last economical viable for women to live alone from choice, and many women feel good about being single for a substantial chunk of their lives. They know this doesn’t mean they are psychologically stunted or unable to make relationships. Not so long ago, most women would have felt that they were incomplete without their ‘other half’. The word ‘spinster’ has always had negative connotations of on-the-shelf failure, whereas ‘bachelor’ has virile associations and is seen in a much more positive light.

In spite of media messages urging coupledom, many women have blossomed into emotional and economic self-sufficiency without a partner.

This means that when two people do decide to come together, it’s a fusion of two wholes rather that two halves. This seems to be one of the keys to a happy and more fulfilled relationship.

This entry was posted on Wednesday, February 16th, 2011 at 8:21 pm and is filed under Dating, Drawing Down the Moon, Independent Women, marriage, Successful Relationships. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. Responses are currently closed, but you can trackback from your own site.

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Are You Ready for a Relationship?

Ready to relate?

Are you sure you really want a relationship? Perhaps you’re actually quite content with being single but have difficulty admitting it. Lots of people give in to social pressures to find a partner when it may be the wrong time for them or simply not what they fundamentally want. Although the need for an intimate bond is deeply embedded in all of us, we can be very content for significant periods of time with the company of close friends and a stimulating career.

However, being single still involves relating – whether to casual lovers or best friends. If the answer to ‘Are you sure you want a relationship?’ is an unqualified ‘Yes!’, you still need to take a moment to reflect on whether you feel ready to take on the responsibility for such a big leap in your life right now.

If you do feel ready, remember that just waiting around won’t make anything happen; you will only make this leap by tackling things differently and by taking charge of your future. If you yearn for action, don’t give any ground to inertia or procrastination. If you want things to stay the same, then well and good; if you don’t, then look at how your initiatives today can be the catalyst for a new and more exciting life tomorrow.

A good starting point is to understand much more clearly what you want from a relationship. Try the following checklist:

 

IDEAL RELATIONSHIP – CHECKLIST – Knowing what you want
 

How do you see your ideal relationship? If you could wave a magic wand, would it be:
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«  An intimate togetherness with marriage/cohabitation? 
«  A part-time but committed lover? 
«  Together but independent? 
«  Friend and lover? 
«  Together and sharing the joys of children? 
Other preferences:

Note them down.

 

 

Today, unlike in times gone by, there are many models of happy relationships to consider. But remember, whatever transpires in real life will never be exactly what you anticipate; adjustments and compromises are nearly always necessary. Nevertheless, having a model of what you’d ideally like is important for keeping you motivated. Being aware of what is blocking the realization of this ideal will take away the power of that block and enable you to start being proactive.

To contact Drawing Down the Moon, call 020 7224 1001 between 1030am and 11pm 7 days a week!

 

 

 

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This entry was posted on Monday, December 20th, 2010 at 1:45 pm and is filed under Dating, marriage, Successful Relationships. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. Responses are currently closed, but you can trackback from your own site.