Mary
Balfour runs the
Drawing Down the Moon and loveandfriends.com
introduction agencies. She lives with her husband Sebastian in an
Edwardian house in west London
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the
house at the top. He’s a professor at the LSE, and he has
an office up there, with the walls lined with books, and his cello
which he plays for pleasure.
“There are three bedrooms on the first
floor, so there’s plenty of space
for my two stepdaughters, who visit now and again. My home office is
up there, too. On the ground floor, the living room is off the hallway.
It is two rooms knocked into one, with two art nouveau fireplaces
and has the original plaster ceiling. For the past 20 years it has
been the same rich dark bluey green colour, which provides
very nice backdrop to the pools of light that come from the lamps
-we don’t like bright lights. We have wooden floors throughout
the house, it’s very friendly and relaxing, very womb-like.
There are two big armchairs, a double sofa, a piano and huge television
which is too complicated for us to work We’ve had lessons
from the man who sold it to us and we still can’t do it, so we
tend to watch the old one in the kitchen.
“Beyond the living room,
what used to be the old French doors to the garden open onto the
new kitchen, which is our pride and joy. We
had a small extension before, and for planning reasons, the upper storey
of that had to be retained, so building a bigger kitchen underneath
it was quite a challenge. We had a brilliant local architect, Gennaro
Picardi, who lives just down the road and he did an
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amazing job with sprayed silver RSJs,
so it looks a like a 1920s aircraft. It is a very modern structure,
but we chose a colour scheme that evokes the French country kitchen
that my husband knew from his childhood (he's half French, with lot of French
country blue, and antique hexagonal terra-cotta tiles which we
went to Normandy to buy. We used a very clever kitchen designer,
Mats Lindroth, who gave it a wonderful look with clean lines, exactly
as we wanted, with masses of cupboards for all the kitchen gadgets."
“We used to eat out a lot with
friends, but the new kitchen has transformed the house. It has made
the kitchen into a place where I really like to be, and put us in
a new frame of mind where we have friends round a great deal. I
love entertaining in small numbers. I love cooking; I feel that preparing
and sharing food is a very important bonding process, whether you
are a couple who are getting to know each other or whether you are
entertaining others."
“I’m a very gregarious sort
of person, though l don’t like parties - l prefer people one
to one. Running a personal introductions agency suits me down to the
ground. Drawing Down the Moon was the original agency, and was meant
for thinking people, though that doesn’t mean serious or older
people. It started in 1984 and I took it over in 1986. I wanted to
take on a
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job which meant I
never had to retire, and I
thought ‘I can carry on doing t his until I’m 102.’
I have three agencies now. One of the others is Only Lunch,
which l acquired five or six years ago. It’s a very clever idea,
where people meet up for lunch dates. We match you up with a person,
you turn up at the restaurant, and if you like them, you can exchange
numbers. It is much less of a commitment than dinner though people
are so busy that actually very few of them can do lunch except on
Sundays, so most of them do meet up for dinner.
“The third agency is loveandfriends.com,
and on this one, people can flirt by e-mail for a month or
more before
meeting up. It’s interesting, because then they get to know
each other from the inside out. It’s like fashioned love letters."
“I’ve been working a
lot from home this year - I’m writing a book about how to catch
your man. And I didn’t meet my husband through an
agency. He was a next door neighbour, and I met him up
ladder, long before I took over dating agencies.”
www.drawinpdownthemoon
.co.uk (020-7937 6263)
www.Ioveandfriends.com.
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I'm
a
very parochial, villagey person and I feel this is my manor. I was
brought up a mile from here, so it’s a home from home. It’s
very peaceful. You can still park outside your front door, yet
you can be in the West End in 15 minutes. It’s near Wormwood
Scrubs, where I go running, which is big and wild with wide horizons
— you can even see the London Eye from there. It’s wonderfully
multicultural and not all metropolitan. Ponies come along the street
from the local riding school - really fat, round TheIwell poniee,
and only this morning a flock of geese wandered by.
“Our house is Edwardian redbrick
with the odd Art Nouveau flourish. The house originally had two
storeys and though we’ve added a floor, you can still see
the sky from every room, which is very important to me. The top floor,
the attic, is my husband’s castle. I bought the house when
I was single, and when we married, my husband felt a bit like a
lodger, so he wanted his own part of
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