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The Best ways to flirt with your date:

1. Use their name in conversation – it creates powerful electricity.

2. Pay them a compliment – ‘That’s a cool tie’ or ‘That’s a great outfit’.  It never fails.

3. Do proactive listening – reflect back something they’ve just said, but using different words ‘So you really love scuba diving…’ or ‘you reckon that it’s time you changed your job…’.  They’ll be so impressed.

4. Ask lots of open ended question about what they think/feel/believe, etc.  But don’t interrogate.

5. If stuck for conversation, ask them to tell you more about something they said earlier

6. Ensure you don’t do all the talking!

Essential flirty body language:

For men and women

An effective smile is used sparingly, on its own, as a statement or to reinforce other messages. Let it suffuse your face after a moment’s reflection in response to something your date has said or done.  Smiling all the time looks emotionally needy.

For women only

1. Sensuously caress your hair; play with your necklace or earring,

2. A sideways glance is very sexy and will disable a man’s defences before he realises it. This piece of body talk is particularly effective if emanating from behind a curtain of tousled tresses nonchalantly flung back.

3. Now and then hold eye contact for that millisecond longer – but   don’t stare.

For men only

1. Relax, sit tall and ensure you are fully facing your date and giving her uninterrupted attention.

2. Check out if your date is giving out defensive or pulling away  signals – maybe you’re being too forward in which case slow down.

3. Lightly caress your wine glass (or whatever other small object is to hand) and you’ll give out powerful sexual signals.

Two never-forget-this flirt tips:

1. Successful flirts always make the flirtee feel wonderful – make that your aim and you’ll feel wonderful too.

2. To evoke a naturally flirtatious mood, just recall a time when you felt enticingly flirty at some time in the past.  Try and evoke what it felt like, even what you saw and heard.  Give the memory a colour and enjoy imagining it coursing through your veins.

Tags: Body Language, compliments, Conversation, Dating, Flirting, listening

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